DISCLAIMER : Views expressed in this are totally mine. No offense to any religion or to anyone. I am not member of NAZ or any other organization who work for HIV patients. Its what i feel and what time demands to accept TRUTH instead of being Hypocrite.
We choose our friends but not our relative. Let me add more - We can choose our sexual partner but sorry we can't choose our sexual orientation. OK go and check BIOLOGY books !
On 2nd July 2009, Honorable Delhi Court made landmark judgment that "The Section 377 of the IPC (Indian Penal Code) as far as it criminalizes gay sex among consenting adults is violation of fundamental rights". Well I think Judges in India are more broad minded then Politicians.
So before we go to talk about sexuality and gayness (LGBT) , what is SEX ? In 4 entities of Hindu society its one - Dharma(Good deeds- NOT RELIGION) , Arth(money), Kamm(SEX), Moksha(Salvation) !
I will talk about Sexual Orientation and thus how and why a GAY person is a normal person.
SEX- Well thats the thing about which we most (if not all) move around. Going to gym to make bodies, studying hard to get good salary to get good wife. Girls studying(or cramming) hard to get good husband for what - to get a good partner ? For what ? We all know what is sex. We all are product of SEX, dont tell me we are product of LOVE. Because Love never ends and the thing which never ends, cant produce a product :). The process ( like sex which do ends after a while) can produces something - like us !
OSHO once said - When parents wants their kid to get married - they are looking for a social acceptable SEXual partner. But when they are arranging for wife or husband what are they arranging for ? We all want to get married, to get a good partner for what ? To have a safe and socially acceptable SEX. But yes after many years we find that they can also be good partners in our old age. Those who wants to make a point - let me ask whats the main reason of divorces ?? We don't like to accept this after all its hard to digest TRUTH. We can't accept sex but you know the flowers you offer to GOD is a product of Sexual activity - Ask a Biologist, and Fruits also which we eat during our fasting days? So how come Sex could be wrong but yes its good if it happens between 2 people whom both are consensus on it and agreeing for.
SEX is very important even GOD can't deny that and nothing bad to talk or to have it. So sexuality is another aspect of SEX which is equally important for anyone. When everyone want to sex either through casually or socially acceptable ( marriage) ways, then its individual's right to choose with whom one would like to have sex with ? Whether its a girl or boy.
Whats NATURAL and UNNATURAL about being GAY ?
Many people say being gay is unnatural ? I don't think its unnatural. We all are product of nature and SEX is part of it. How come its characteristic - SEXUALITY can be unnatural ?
Nature is what drives you from inside and its a fact people are attracted for particular sex becuase of particular hormones.
So if 2 boys (pubic ones)/Guys/man wants to have pleasure(or SEX) from each other bodies whats wrong in that ? Some people like drinking lemon juice and others pineapple.
Something is Unnatural - if you are Heterosexual and do a sex with a boy/kid without his consensus. If two people who do sex, driven by their sexuality and consensually and conciously then it can't be UNnatural. Its the hormones produced naturally which is driving them to do so. If mass rape happens that is unnatural.
Bloody Government is too smart here. Moily (Law Minister) says we need to consult religious groups - What is this ? Do they consult religious groups before making any law. Let me put some examples here.
In almost every religion liquor is not considered Good or like it should be banned, then why don't they banned that ? Just becuase Government earns too much money from that ? Why Moily has to ask specially Christian groups, did they made every law after consulting them in India ? Well today most of the catholic father from churches rape their SON then any one else. So instead of raping Son they should come out and go with same age guy.
A old custom - Sati Pratha (a part of Hindu custom) was abolished from Indian Society because when some people felt that its against humanity. Why did they abolished something from Hindu society when at that time most Hindus don't wanted it ? Just becuase consciously it don't give equal rights to Ladies or its a custom against mankind.
What is the impact of not accepting which do exist in Society
Today GAY people are one of the main reasons of HIV in society . WHY ?
When you know you are not legalized you go and do with anyone you don't even know. You go and do without proper protection and in hurry. This all these things lead to spreading of VIRUS. So until we don't accept that this is part of society it will be harming more. Just saying this is bad , this is bad .. you can't remove or hide something which do exist. Better is to accept few things.
Yes to those who people talk about Indian Culture - where they go when there is mass rape happens specially with foreigners. Where the culture goes when you beat your brothers just because they belong to different state or religion (this is Atithi devo Bhav - Guest is my GOD).
Also i feel pity when educated and matured people also talk rubbish.
Politicians keep 3 wives. Change their religion to marry someone else. People (a must read) talks about marriage values who talks against Same-Sex marriage have affairs with their employees.
Please don't make a hue and cry over this. Go and see Khajuraho temples whose India is proud of. What are they showing on the walls of temple ? Sexual pose not only between 2 opposite sex but also between same sex.
I Also don't agree with some people this is being imported from Europe or saying this means India is progressing. If you accept something which do exist in society or around doesn't makes us progressive but WISE.
Anyone could be gay. Your best friend or your uncle or any x, y, z could be. tomorrow anyone's son could be born gay. It doesn't mean we should start hating them. I think its good if Government and we as society handle this subject maturely instead of ignoring or simply moving away from the Issue.
LIFE
13 years ago
Hi sir, I read your article and i realised something.You know i realised that until now gay act was just a funny thing for me as seen in Dostana and other bollywood movies. But your serious views about same sex attraction had made me think about this.
ReplyDeleteI agree with most of your points especially about contradictory behaviour of Indian society and Indian govt on various issues.
But i still have got few points where i think i don't agree with you.
1. Same sex attraction is natural :
I think same sex attraction is not natural in a way. Rather instead of unnatural i should use the term Medically improper.We always have heard opposite sex attract each other. And going with your line, it could be as sex between two opposite sexes produces a product, means has some kind of output. Sex with output gets some respect from here only. And i guess most of people have attractions for opposite sex only. And very rare people have attraction for same sex. You say that its all because of hormones, but sometimes in medical sciences malfunctioning or different behaviour of hormones creates disorders. It could be more a medical problem or psycological illness then unchararistic or unnatural thing.
2. Gay sex spreads HIV:
I won't say that gay sex spreads HIV but yes it surely has increased chances of unprotected sex and so more is danger of Sexually transmitted diseases. Lets face it most of people use condoms while sex just to avoid pregnancy and not because they are too concious. Also sex using condoms is less enjoyable (as far i and my ex-GF have experienced. In case of gay sex fear of pregnancy has no role to play. So it increases chances of getting involved in unsafe sex. Hence increasing chances of more STDs.
I am not against or pro gay thing. But yes i do agree that every indivisual has right to choose the one with whom he/she can feel attached, happy and satisfied.
Ritesh Sharma
Hey, The blog was really nice. I do agree with Rajesh that homosexuality is not unnatural. Unless its present in the nature how does it get expressed in an individual irrespective of the species. Some people might argue that man can think and thus take undue advantage of the rational power in case of having sex too. I mean to say that when one realizes that sex is his/her right, he/she can choose to have sex with a member of the same sex, which is of course never suspicious. But in case of homosexuality, its not a logical thinking that drives the attraction, but the sexual orientation. And in fact homosexuality is proved to exist in more that a thousand species, including insects and dogs. And in contradictory to Mr.Rithesh, There are several surveys done in the US, UK and other European countries, which puts gay relations as the major risk behind spreading of AIDS and in fact AIDS was first diagnosed in homosexual men. And its true that most of the Indians may not agree with this being a reason for the spread of HIV in India because there are no surveys for the same.
ReplyDeleteAnyways this judgment has come as a landmark victory for all gay rights and Human rights activists. Hope the society too becomes gay friendly soon.
Hi, good work. it show your serious research in this field. look luck dude ................
ReplyDeleteGreat...extensive...well done.
ReplyDeleteBut at some places you just jumped to conclusions too fast.....
"Politicians keep 3 wives"......Only three...r u sure.